IT'S COMPLICATED III

HEBREWS 4:14-16 So then, since we have a great High Priest who has entered heaven, Jesus the Son of God, let us hold firmly to what we believe. 15 This High Priest of ours understands our weaknesses, for he faced all of the same testings we do, yet he did not sin. 16 So let us come boldly to the throne of our gracious God. There we will receive his mercy, and we will find grace to help us when we need it most.

RELATIONSHIPS NEED GOALS TO BE POWERFUL

IF YOU DON’T KNOW WHAT YOUR GOALS ARE YOU WON’T BE ABLE TO TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR THEM

    POWERFUL PEOPLE TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR THEMSELVES/RELATIONSHIPS    

YOU ARE THE ONLY ONE WHO CAN CONTROL YOUR GOAL

GOD DOES NOT USE FEAR OF PUNISHMENT OR PAIN TO DISTANCE HIMSELF OR TO EXERCISE CONTROL

JEREMIAH 31:3 Long ago the Lord said to Israel: “I have loved you, my people, with an everlasting love. With unfailing love I have drawn you to myself.”

GOD DEMONSTRATES THAT PROBLEMS CAN’T BE SOLVED WHILE DISCONNECTED

    PSALM 46 - EVER PRESENT HELP IN TIME OF NEED

A STRONG LOVING CONNECTION REDUCES THE ANXIETY IN A RELATIONSHIP

“…pour water on the fires of your fears and throw gasoline on the passion of your dreams.” Kris Vallotton

5 LOVE LANGUAGES

    GIFTS

    CONNECTION:  YOU KNOW ME AND ARE THINKING OF ME EVEN WHEN I                      WASN’T AROUND

    DISCONNECT:  YOU DON’T CARE BECAUSE YOU DON’T EVEN KNOW                                     ME OR GIVE ME A PASSING THOUGHT.

    TOUCH

    CONNECTION:  I FEEL CONNECTED WHEN WE ARE TOUCHING.

    DISCONNECT:  I FEEL REJECTED AND NEGLECTED WHEN YOU DON’T                            TOUCH ME.

    ACTS OF SERVICE

    CONNECTION:  I FEEL LOVED WHEN YOU TAKE CARE OF THINGS THAT ARE             IMPORTANT TO ME.

    DISCONNECT:  YOU DON’T CARE ABOUT ME, BECAUSE YOU DON’T CARE                        ABOUT THINGS THAT ARE IMPORTANT TO ME.

    WORDS OF AFFIRMATION

    CONNECTION:  I FEEL LOVED WHEN I BELIEVE THAT YOU LIKE ME.

    DISCONNECT:  I FEEL REJECTED WHEN YOUR WORDS ARE HARSH.

    QUALITY TIME

    CONNECTION:  I FEEL LOVED WHEN YOU SHOW INTEREST IN ME.

    DISCONNECT:  I FEEL REJECTED WHEN YOU DON’T VALUE MY INTERESTS.

CLEAN UP YOUR MESSES

HEBREWS 4:15-16 This High Priest of ours understands our weaknesses, for he faced all of the same testings we do, yet he did not sin. 16 So let us come boldly to the throne of our gracious God. There we will receive his mercy, and we will find grace to help us when we need it most.

MERCY - FORGIVENESS

GRACE- EMPOWERS ME TO MANAGE MY OWN MESS