IT'S COMPLICATED VIII

IT’S COMPLICATED VIII

HEBREWS 4:12-16 For we have the living Word of God, which is full of energy, and it pierces more sharply than a two-edged sword. It will even penetrate to the very core of our being where soul and spirit, bone and marrow meet! It interprets and reveals the true thoughts and secret motives of our hearts. 

13 There is not one person who can hide their thoughts from God, for nothing that we do remains a secret, and nothing created is concealed, but everything is exposed and defenseless before his eyes, to whom we must render an account.

14 So then, we must cling in faith to all we know to be true. For we have a magnificent King-Priest, Jesus Christ, the Son of God, who rose into the heavenly realm for us, and now sympathizes with us in our frailty. 

15 He understands humanity, for as a Man, our magnificent King-Priest was tempted in every way just as we are, and conquered sin. 

16 So now we come freely and boldly to where love is enthroned, to receive mercy’s kiss and discover the grace we urgently need to strengthen us in our time of weakness.

TALKING IS NOT COMMUNICATING

“If connection is the priority, then the goal of communication cannot be agreement, because then one person has to disappear when there is disagreement. ”

UNDERSTANDING > AGREEMENT 

“If I understand your heart, then I can respond to your thoughts, respect your feelings, and help to meet your needs.”

HOW DO WE DO THAT?

    MOVE PAST FACTS AND CLICHES

    MOVE INTO FEELINGS AND NEEDS

HEAD LEVEL TO HEART LEVEL COMMUNICATION

    COMMUNICATING FEELINGS AND NEEDS

WHEN WE DON’T HONOR OUR CONNECTION’S FEELINGS & NEEDS

    WE ARE MANIPULATING AND CONTROLLING

“YOU SHOULD JUST CALM DOWN AND BE LIKE ME.”

UNDERSTAND — APPRECIATE — VALIDATE

    POWER (CHOICE)

    RESPONSE (EMPATHY, THOUGHT AND COURAGE)

    CONNECTION THRU ASSERTIVE COMMUNICATION

“WHAT DO YOU NEED?”

HEBREWS 4:14-16 

14 So then, we must cling in faith to all we know to be true. For we have a magnificent King-Priest, Jesus Christ, the Son of God, who rose into the heavenly realm for us, and now sympathizes with us in our frailty. 

15 He understands humanity, for as a Man, our magnificent King-Priest was tempted in every way just as we are, and conquered sin. 

16 So now we come freely and boldly to where love is enthroned, to receive mercy’s kiss and discover the grace we urgently need to strengthen us in our time of weakness.

 

JESUS UNDERSTANDS — APPRECIATES — VALIDATES

    (V14) SYMPATHIZES WITH OUT WEAKNESS

    (V15) UNDERSTANDS — HE FACED EVERYTHING WE HAVE, AND WON

    (V16) ALLOWS US FREE CONNECTION TO LOVE, MERCY AND GRACE

    (V16) VALIDATES US WITH STRENGTH

 

LOVE IS BOLD

HOPE IS BOLD

    COME BOLDY AND FREELY TO SALVATION